A Couple's Creed
by Fr. Peter deSousa
After 36 years of being enriched by thousands of Catholic couples, I
would like to offer you this creed. Share it with your friends.
- Have faith in God's love and providence rather than dependence on money, power, status. Seek God's will everyday in our marriage, home and
- Have a strong belief that God is calling us and empowering us everyday to be channels of His love and grace to our spouse, family and others we meet. His grace is sufficient for us.
- Understand the need to love each other, as Jesus loved us on the cross. Let us allow ourselves to be loved by our spouse, even when we feel unworthy.
- Understand the need to humbly ask and give forgiveness, over and over again, without reservations.
- Understand the importance of personal and family prayer, sharing God's Word and living the Sacraments on a daily basis, to counteract the divisive and
corrupting influences we face.
- Understand the importance of listening with our hearts to understand and accept the other as they are, without trying to change or manipulate them.
- Realize the importance of frequently sharing our thoughts and feelings with each other, honestly, openly and lovingly, in areas like money, sex,
in-laws, children, work, time, friends, religious practices, entertainment. Loving and open communication will help us to
understand and respond to each other.
- Understand the need to "care-front" each other when there are differences that cause tension and hurt. To find opportune times and ways of doing this, regularly.
- Understand the need to be involved in sexual communication as spouses, seeing this as a way of communicating love, acceptance, encouragement,
forgiveness, comfort, reassurance and delight and affirmation of each other. To continue this always.
- Understand the importance of both partners sharing in the ongoing running of the home, parenting and budgeting.
- Realize that love cannot be centered on the conjugal relationship or the home alone, or it will become possessive and manipulative. Love of couples and families have to be directed outwards in being life-giving to others who are poor, weak and suffering. Love that is shared, multiplies and grows.
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