Waiting for Marriage

I've been engaged to my boyfriend for 6 months now and he wants us to get married this year. I am 20 and he is 22. The problem is I'm studying for a law degree and he works in his uncle's firm. I really do love him. But I feel we are too young to get into financial responsibilities, etc. My mum and dad used to argue constantly about money and I don't want that to happen to us. How can I tell him that I feel we should wait another few years until I have a good job with money coming in and he becomes a partner in his uncle's firm?

Coral: I can understand your fears for the future - they are very valid. You could have a quiet moment with your fiancé and discuss financial details with him. Maybe you should both sit down and work out how much money you both have in your kitty and plan your finances.

Ruby: Make a list of the expenses you would have as a couple e.g. Rent, Electricity, Food, etc. Ask him to see whether you can realistically manage on his salary.

Coral: You need to be careful here because it could hurt his ego if he thinks you don't trust him enough to take care of you. Explain to him your fears that are based on the reality as well as on your experience growing up.

Ruby: You don't need to feel guilty because you are thinking about your future as a couple. Be honest from the start and that will make him see you're thinking about your future together and you have sincere commitment to him.

Coral: Finally put your relationship in the hands of the Lord. Pray as a couple and let the Lord's wisdom speak to you. Remember He is a loving Father who cares for your every need. He will provide for you. Draw on His wisdom and love.

Ruby: Be assured of our prayers. Trust in your love for each other and in God's great love for you. "May the Lord make your love increase and overflow for each other and for everyone else." 1 Thessalonians 3: 12

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